Comments on: As Long as We Both Shall Live

By: ellidew

ellidew — Thu, 20 Sep 2007 14:38:45 +0000

Great article! I got married at 21 and met dh at 17. We’re going on 9.5 years together and 5.5 years of marriage.

Personally, i don’t think i missed out on anything though! Instead, i think i got a better deal than other people… I’ve already spent 1/3 of my life with my spouse. How freakin’ lucky am i?!

By: Anne

Anne — Wed, 19 Sep 2007 00:20:44 +0000

My experience was similar to a lot of the ones posted here– DH and I met when we were 18, and I was dating someone else. We became friends, and then started dating later that year– and we’ve now been together for 11 years, married (at 23) for almost 6 years. We’ve gone through so much together already, and I can’t imagine being happier had we waited longer to be married.

By: Rancid13

Rancid13 — Sat, 15 Sep 2007 18:23:37 +0000

I forgot to mention that by the time I met FH, I already had several years’ worth of traveling, going to college for a time, experiencing life on my own and with a roommate, and lots of bar-hopping and other singles-related fun stuff that changes a little when you have a SO.

By: Rancid13

Rancid13 — Sat, 15 Sep 2007 18:19:15 +0000

Great article! I was one of those who assumed they’d be single forever, if not for a loooong time. I fully intended to ’sow my wild oats’ well into my late 30’s if I could. I dated rampantly and often. But then during a night out with the girls, I met my future husband at a bar when I was freshly 22. We were engaged 1.5 years later and married just over 3 years after we’d met. I was 25, he was 28. We’re going on 7 years together next month and will be celebrating with our now-9-month-old son in tow. I’m glad I met my husband when I did, and sometimes we both wish we’d met a little earlier but we’re looking forward to the rest of our lives together & building memories.

By: LRL

LRL — Sat, 15 Sep 2007 03:36:27 +0000

What a great article! We also belong to this “club” so to speak. My husband and I met in high school, *gasp* *shock!* and have been happily together ever since. I never felt the need to go out and experience all the bad relationships, and wild times when I had a wonderful guy, and fun times without all the drama. My mother was adamant that as a woman, I needed to date a ton, and make sure that my mate was the right one… Well, guess what Mom? My marriage is happier/better than a lot of people who have waited and then have to integrate two separate lives as older adults. So, I have still become the highly educated, career oriented, urban woman, despite having the stability of a relationship long before others in our demographic. I have to say that they are missing out!

By: justHB

justHB — Sat, 15 Sep 2007 00:37:20 +0000

I could have written this post myself (with a few minor adjustments). When I tell people I met my husband the second semester of my freshman year of college at the ripe old age of 18, the first reaction is shock, the second is sympathy. I can’t quite figure out why anyone would be sympathetic over having met my life partner so young. They always say, “but you didn’t get to date a ton of guys after college!” or “you didn’t get to move to NYC and live with your girlfriends.” Yeah, those are the positives. =)

I think this line (“So we started dating, and we just never broke up – there was no reason to, we were happy together.”) resonated the most with me. While we’ve certainly had our ups and downs, there was never a time when all bets were off. We just work for each other. Yin, yang and all that jazz.

By: jnettie

jnettie — Fri, 14 Sep 2007 03:05:28 +0000

LOL! I landed the “not gay” guy at my college, too!
While not quite as young, DH and I met at 22, in our last year of college, right before that “wild oats” phase you tell of. We pretty much shacked up immediately. Instead of bouncing from roommate to roommate, we got an apartment together. We dated 5 years before marriage, so we weren’t so young when we finally got hitched, but we certainly found our right partner right out of school.

By: BNZ

BNZ — Fri, 14 Sep 2007 01:34:16 +0000

Great article!
I got married a year ago at 26. It was earlier than almost any of my friends of similar age, and I still don’t have aspects of my life in order. I have a graduate degree, but I’m in a career that doesn’t suit me, working out what to do next. While I can see that it might have been easier to sort out what I wanted to do with my life before I had to balance my wishes with another person’s needs, I’m so pleased to have such a wonderful person with me on what is sometimes a frustrating, and sometimes an incredibly exciting journey.

By: ellybella

ellybella — Fri, 14 Sep 2007 00:47:12 +0000

great article amuse! guess you haven’t had that baby yet . our stories are very similar, although we didn’t marry until i was 27. i met dh at 18 and we’ve been together for 14 years, married for 5 and still so in love!

By: maybebaby

maybebaby — Thu, 13 Sep 2007 22:20:25 +0000

I never knock people who get married young because my parents met at 22 and have been married for 35+ years in one of the happiest marriages I’ve witnessed. Actually I think we should all be so lucky!

Here’s to many more happy years of marriage for you!