I ran across yet another person this morning promising the entire world that financial riches lie just beyond that glass wall, and for $19.95 plus shipping and handling, she will tell you how to break through that glass wall and embrace all that dough, find Mr. Right, and lose 30 lbs.
Let’s see…that must be the thirty-first person to claim to have “the answer”.
How many of these people already own the SECRET, and e-books from sites claiming to have the answer?
No one is willing to put “the bell on the cat”…no one is willing to be the child in the Emperor’s New Clothes; no one wants to tell the truth: You actually have the answers right inside of yourself. It may not be attractive, it’s not sexy, and frankly, it can be pretty darn painful at times, but, it’s your truth…and nothing but the truth. You own it; it’s your core issue.
We have become soft; a culture bred on quick fixes and cheese doodles. Have all those ingested preservatives finally damaged our capacity to truly heal? We seem to drift towards terminal vagueness and the desire to ‘check-out’, be numb or be dumb, that’s the ticket.
Everything we need to understand in order to change has already been written…and those books are probably sitting on the shelves of all these people throwing their money to purchase yet another “answer”.
The truth is: having money or food ‘issues’, or any other self-destructive behavior comes from living one’s life on two tracks. Not being whole, not being authentic; being afraid to really go deep and shine a light on the childhood shame and confront the proverbial monsters in the closet.
Gaining self-awareness is the key to change, but the pop culture spin that has currently become so topical, is nauseating. The truth is: all these suffering souls were in trouble long before gas prices hit $4.50 a gallon, long before the mortgage industry hit the skids. They just hid in denial. True healing requires courage, faith, discipline and desire. It takes work…hard work to constantly confront those pieces of ourselves we have spent so much energy running from. There are no real quick fixes.
Pegi Burdick is known as The Financial Whisperer. She believes in teaching women to become financially literate, to demand what they deserve financially and to encourage women to recognize and understand the hows and whys of their money beliefs .